tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post7568166489031622188..comments2024-02-23T23:05:55.799-08:00Comments on PollyAnna's Divorce: This is really happeningPollyAnnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-70357256216513922162012-06-06T21:02:45.776-07:002012-06-06T21:02:45.776-07:00Brenda, I agree about writing it out - this blog i...Brenda, I agree about writing it out - this blog is cheap therapy for me! :-) You really went through so much all at once, my heart goes out to you. I want to cry for you! But you give me a great deal of inspiration and hope that you have walked in my shoes and made it to a happier place, and I can not thank you enough for that.PollyAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-78763635057056856312012-06-06T21:00:15.147-07:002012-06-06T21:00:15.147-07:00Anonymous, like you, I really wish sometimes I cou...Anonymous, like you, I really wish sometimes I could just be left alone too, and then I feel horrifically guilty because there is so much to do. I love your analogy of making cake - that's it exactly! Stages of grief: I'm not even sure which one I'm in, isn't that funny? Sometimes I long for the anger because it's energizing, and I just feel tired all the time. I am tough...but tired. Thank you for your support - it is very much appreciated. (Can you sign your posts with a name so I know who you are, as there can be multiple "anonymous" posters? A pseudonym is fine if you want to remain anonymous, just something so I can figure out which comment came from which poster. xoxo)PollyAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-53254424311195223442012-06-06T15:20:17.239-07:002012-06-06T15:20:17.239-07:00I think a lot of us "zone out" in a way ...I think a lot of us "zone out" in a way when traumatic things happen. You just kind of keep going through the motions when things happen. I had times of...just keep going and times of...just let me cry. One thing that really helped me was writing out my struggles. I wrote about my entire relationship with X and about what was happening with my dad's death and my cancer scare. I haven't read it in a while and when I do, I know that I have let a lot of stuff go. At the same time, I cry that I had to go through all of that and can't believe I did. Time truly does heal you. Only 20-something days until you can breathe! You will get there! BrendaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-41104391321076366642012-06-06T11:12:36.804-07:002012-06-06T11:12:36.804-07:00I remember staring into space alot, "zoning&q...I remember staring into space alot, "zoning" my kids called it.I just wanted to be left alone so I could dwell on my thoughts about what had happened to my marriage. It felt like I couldn't get my mind around it,and maybe if I thought hard about it I could make sense of it.It wasn't fair, I made the cake according to the directions and the cake fell! The 5 stages of grief ran my life and I became right at home with the anger stage! I read somewhere that divorce is equal to death in the loss and grief category. Now that I've experienced both, I'd have to agree. Hang in there PollyAnna, your a tough broad - I've heard Cancer beats em both !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com