tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post8829161995077505757..comments2024-02-23T23:05:55.799-08:00Comments on PollyAnna's Divorce: Taking a breathPollyAnnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-51108095238060445192012-06-05T08:09:17.629-07:002012-06-05T08:09:17.629-07:00Yes, I have picked up the pieces and moved on afte...Yes, I have picked up the pieces and moved on after the loss of my 26 year marriage ,but what a slow and painful process it was! I have remarried and in retrospect it was worth the struggle to have an opportunity I would not have had otherwise: to know love in a way I could not have understood or appreciated before pain changed my perception of all things. I am wiser, and so you will be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-58008792285751631182012-06-02T19:40:30.942-07:002012-06-02T19:40:30.942-07:00We are not alone. Please visit abusesanctuary.com...We are not alone. Please visit abusesanctuary.com and onemomsbattle.com. Also, bandbacktogether.com<br /><br />I haven't quite found the rock star but I'm getting there! It just takes time. You'll have it once you figure out your freedom!<br />BrendaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-75802722508573765452012-06-02T17:55:27.992-07:002012-06-02T17:55:27.992-07:00Brenda, your post brings me so much hope - thankyo...Brenda, your post brings me so much hope - thankyouthankyouthankyou! I hate to think of how you've had to live through this too, but knowing that you are ahead of me, and that you found your inner rock star again, makes me happier than I can tell you. Please visit here again often - I look forward to hearing from you.PollyAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-48945713439208011062012-06-02T15:16:54.170-07:002012-06-02T15:16:54.170-07:00I read through all of your blog. I feel like we a...I read through all of your blog. I feel like we are the same person. Three years ago, my ex finally moved out after my asking him to do so a year earlier. It was the worst year of my life. Walking on eggshells is an easy path compared to the life I lived. I did not go through cancer but did have a cancer scare and my father was dying from melanoma at the time. Get the apartment, pack his stuff and move him. Procrastination is an artform with these guys. I know mental illness is hard but you deserve to be happy. I chose the high road as well but in the end I had to put my foot down. The good news is that you won't believe the difference in your life when he no longer has access to your home. You'll be able to breathe! You'll feel so free! and you will feel like a rock star eventually! It takes time and I'll be praying for you. All the best to you and your daughter!<br />BrendaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-3266254300209391152012-06-01T16:21:03.736-07:002012-06-01T16:21:03.736-07:00BLW, yes, I do believe you get it...and that maybe...BLW, yes, I do believe you get it...and that maybe you can explain it to me! I'm used to doing the impossible (fifteen surgeries in six years....) but sometimes it just seems, well, impossible! Thank you for your encouraging words.<br /><br />"Honorable" is what I'm striving for. I use the word "integrity" a lot, but honorable is a wonderful word. When Katherine comes running in full of requests and I want to be left alone because of this fatigue, it is honor that makes me look her in the eyes and smile.<br /><br />BLW, I'm so glad you're here. Thank you.PollyAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-26196879890501549462012-06-01T15:50:09.954-07:002012-06-01T15:50:09.954-07:00Happy Friday to you as well, PollyAnna.
That &quo...Happy Friday to you as well, PollyAnna.<br /><br />That "on duty all the time" thing? I get it. I think many, many of us get it. Does it help if I tell you that you build up stamina in that department? You eventually get so used to it you just <i>do it</i> - like the Nike commercial.<br /><br />It's not easier (or less tiring) so much as it becomes automatic. I'm not sure if that's good or bad, but my intention is to suggest that it's livable... and when you collapse into bed at night, you can do so knowing you gave the day your all, and did what you had to.<br /><br />That may not sound glamorous, but I think it's <i>honorable</i>. That's not a word we use much anymore, but maybe we should.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-42810861929596540962012-06-01T14:31:58.123-07:002012-06-01T14:31:58.123-07:00"My mind was constantly out of focus" - ..."My mind was constantly out of focus" - oh, yes, that's it! Where *am* I in all of this? It's so easy to get sucked into the day to day, and when the day to day is grinding us down, well, that's not ideal, is it. Thank you for sharing your experiences - I was right, it DID make me feel less alone! How are you now? Are you doing okay? I love a happy ending, too.PollyAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708541167896653880.post-91719827591373400362012-06-01T13:05:35.370-07:002012-06-01T13:05:35.370-07:00I love how you describe the things you forgot to d...I love how you describe the things you forgot to do, mistakes made, but then remembered to consider all of the things you were able to accomplish in this state you are in of running on only one of four cylinders! I was there, panicing at the thought of how I would complete the job of raising the children without help, when their father decided to leave without warning. I remember feeling like my mind was constantly out of focus.I love that expression "having the rug pulled out from underneath you" because that describes it perfectly! But I have a wise friend who kept directing me to the things I was still doing right to keep me from dwelling on my f -ups ,of which there were many! She would remind me of the confident woman she knew before the fall, and how much she admired that woman. I hated the scared ,whiney creature who wanted to sleep all of the time - the new me. These are the times we are at survival mode and all the other human faculties are pushed aside for the sake of survival. We have difficulty thinking of others and their needs when there's a shark in the water.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com